I’ve a great lover of Seth Godin and all he writes. For Christmas, I bought myself a copy of his collectors edition book “What does it sound like when you change your mind”. Whilst flicking through the pages, I came across this gem that I wanted to share with you.
This is totally the reason why, when I recently got married on 17th December 2016, we chose to keep our wedding a secret and conduct a very low key ceremony with only immediate family in attendance. Because the day was about us, about two people who love each making the decision to live together forever as husband and wife. It wasn’t about the pomp and ceremony. It wasn’t about the display or who wore what and how big the cake was (we didn’t even have a cake).
And yet, even organising this very small ceremony, I started to get caught up in the details. I heard myself one day getting stressed over whether the song I had chosen was too long and what was going to happen, who was going to turn the song down and what if that sounded weird and, and, and.
At that moment I pulled myself up short and said “what are you doing? It doesn’t matter what happens to the music, no one is going to care if it stops, or gets turned down or doesn’t even play. And I realised in that moment, how caught up we can get in the hype, in the show, about making it perfect, when, as Seth says, “it doesn’t matter a whole lot in the long run” because it really doesn’t.
So I ask you this… what details are you stressing over in your life or business that really when you think about it, don’t matter at all in the long run?